Twins!!???!! OMG! What? Are you sure? All I could say in that first ultrasound was, “Oh my God, Oh my God, OH MY GOD”. I am not sure how many times I said it, but I was stuck on repeat for several minutes. I have found that most people with twins had some kind of a knowledge that they could possibly be next in line for a set of twins. Most of the time, we see twins run in families. Well….not in my family. I had no thought or clue as to the fact that I would ever have a set of twins. It wasn’t even a worry in my head. My husband sat beside me excited and laughing… Because less than 30 minutes prior, he made a post to FaceBook “checking in” at ultrasound appointment. Along with A super annoying post, “Twins, Twins, Twins”. It was of course all in the name of fun and a huge joke, but when the sonographer said, “Oh….OH… There are TWO heartbeats”. That joke became not so funny! It took me an hour or so for it to sink in and register, after I then became excited. So excited, in fact, that I went from store to store buying two of everything once I found out their sex. One boy and one girl, can’t get more perfect than that. Brining twins home is scary and exciting, as well as a tough task for those of us who don’t have loads of money in the bank to pay for extra help. Granted, it depends on the personalities of your babies how your first months of life will be. Preparing yourself and the people around you will help you be one step closer to not losing your freaking mind during days and days of no sleep and screaming simultaneously.
First, let’s talk about preparing yourself, because let’s get real, this is the last bit of time you have to put yourself first. Like taking a bath in private, going pooh with out two bouncers siting in front of you. Forget about fixing your hair or putting on makeup for a while…. and going to the mall…HA. Your stroller is like driving a bus, what do you think you are going to do when you have TWO screaming infants by yourself in a busy mall. And let’s not mention you won’t get much shopping done, from people stopping you asking a bazillion annoying questions about your twins. As if you are pushing around something no one has seen or heard of.
First and foremost, make sure you have someone you can call on when things get bad. I mean you may get lucky and get these little sleeping angels that sleep sixteen hours a night and take a four hour nap, but don’t set yourself up for failure thinking of perfect world scenarios. My twins, bless their beautiful little hearts, are two of THE most high maintenance children to ever walk the earth….since birth. They don’t require much sleep, hungry 24/7, always wanted to be held and filled up an entire trash bag of diapers daily. Thankfully, since I am not a Kardashian, I had lots of amazing people around me that where at my side in the blink of an eye. If you don’t have family or friends, maybe just find a teenager to do some light work around the house or hold a kid when they are both screaming at the same time. Either way, have a no fail back up plan for those day you are overwhelmed or sleep deprived. It will make all the difference.
Bed rest is a common thing for lots of pregnancies especially those of multiples. I went on bed rest at 6 months and was not prepared to be a laid up incubator yet. I had lots of things still unfinished. Again, thankfully I had people who came and finished these things for me. Try to get yourself prepared way in advance. Have all your must haves done within the first couple of months of pregnancy and then work on the rest in the remainder of your time. Absolutely do not wait until the later months to do any must-dos.
If you plan on breastfeesing, read up on breastfeeding and talk to other moms who have breastfed twins. No offense to anyone, but a mom who has never had multiples can’t really help you figure out how the heck to work that crazy schedule out or give you techniques and tips that will make getting them situated easier and more doable. Lots of people think they know everything, but until you’ve tried to get two babies situated and latched by yourself, you have no idea of the struggle. The struggle is REAL you guys.
Any personal items you will need during those first couple of months, stock up. Your favorite shampoos, soap, lotions, drinks, snacks, etc. Not that you won’t leave the house for months, but changes are that any time you do have to “get away”, you’ll want to sleep or lay in a nice relaxing bath.
Buy yourself some workout DVDs and some small hand weights or bands. Once you are able to get back to exercise, it’s not as easy as you think to get two kids ready and to the gym. So have those as backups for those days you don’t want to get out of your P.J’s and just get that workout at home.
Any medications you will need to come home with and all of your feminine products, have those stocked and ready. You don’t want to send your hubby to the store to try to figure out what diapers/pads you will need for the waterfall that is about to happen.
Please, please, please make sure you are seeing a doctor that is connected to a hospital that had a great NICU. Not all twins are born early and need this, but you’d rather be safe than sorry on his one.
Make sure you’ve stocked up on postpartum clothes. This is once I didn’t really consider or think about and I was sorry for it later.
When preparing your home, it is my own advice, that you go ahead and do those thing that you think may not need to be done until they get a little older. Especially, if you plan on going back to work. Like cabinet locks and door stops. Get that honey-do list up and running quick and put that man of yours to work. Once those babies are here you’ll be crazy busy.
DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT go buy two of everything, before you know what they like. I went crazy and started buying two of everything. Don’t do that!! Most things you won’t need two of, one will like the swing and one will like the bouncer then you’ve wasted money on two of everything. My advice is to just get one and see what they like. If they like some of the same things, go ahead and get two. I had to have two swings, they were my lifesavers. I also had two bouncers and walkers, these also saved me lots of times.
In my own experience, I found having them in separate rooms help a lot. I realize some people don’t have this luxury, but if you do, you may want to consider. You may have one that will sleep a lot longer than the other and trust me, you want that baby to sleep if he/she will.
Strollers are probably THE most annoying part of having twins. Side-by-sides are too wide to fit in some doors and go down store aisles, but they are the best for exercise and jogging. Buy two, one that’s compact for shopping days and one that’s large for exercise and family activities.
Of course, I could go on and on for days more, but I think this is a good start. Twins are such a blessing and lots of work. Many people with singles, will not understand you or have any advice that won’t really annoy the piss out of you, from their lack of knowledge on the daily struggles you face that isn’t even a thought in their mind. Find other parents of multiples and go to them for advice. I’ve wanted to punch so many people in the face for stupid advice, because they just simple don’t understand. Congrats on your double blessing and have fun watching these two very different unique individuals grow and blossom.